At this moment you begin to look at your own empty flower pots; pinning for some roses. Even though they will only wilt with time. But what do you have? You have just that; time. Time to find someone? Time for someone to find you? But most importantly time to find yourself!
So, being single is an opportunity. An opportunity to find yourself. An opportunity to use that heartache as fuel for your new journey; much like the story of Sam the 70 year old bodybuilder.( all kind of gains come when you are single!)
An opportunity to work on the person you always wanted to be. An opportunity to achieve those goals you set yourself. An opportunity to find love for yourself.

Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
So don’t go out searching for love. Find yourself. Find the things you love to do. The places you love to go. And you know what? the funny thing is; along the way you will find people who share your interests. The stranger thing is; you will most likely find that person you were not looking for; when you stopped looking for them. As you were busy finding yourself, they were busy finding themselves. Which resulted in you finding each other!
You found each other at a time whereby you both were enjoying something you love to do. It will be the first of many things you share together!
If you take one thing from this post, let this be it. To love, is to be open, to be open is to be willing to receive, to receive is to be willing to lose, to lose is to be ready for pain. But when ready for pain you can embrace happiness, when happy you fear no loss, for what you have lost the is only fraction of what you have received. When you’re open to life, you will love it.
Have you found love after finding yourself?
Are you still looking for love?
Are you happy being single?
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Antoine Allen
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